Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Trust In Relationships

Time to dust off this blog and get back to writing I guess, as it's been a while since my last blog and this topic has been on my heart a while. Trust and how we view trust versus what God shows us what trust really looks like.

To kick this off I'm going to share what I thought was for the longest time and how God changed all that in the summer of 2014. My initial thought of trust was that if someone were to break your trust then how would you rebuild the trust you had with that person I viewed trust as something that was never constant, always changing and based upon the relationship you were in(because we are all in relationships with people all the time) which meant to me that trust wasn't lasting. For a long time I held the belief that trust was given at 100%, but then if someone broke the trust it had to start from 0% and rebuild from there. This kind of thinking in my opinion is flawed because when you look at the relationships in the Bible with God's people and those whom he called to them; the trust between God and the individual was always there, but because of sin or disobedience it was broken. Now if the individual or person repented then seemingly the trust would start off with where it was, not starting from zero, however there are times in the Bible where the trust is completely erased.

Now to share with you what God taught me this summer, please keep in mind this is still fresh and new to me in someways. "To me when someone breaks your trust and you've been building with that person I used to think that the trust didn't exist anymore between the person and you. In essence you would have to start at ground zero, but this summer when everything went to hell God was still there. When school came again he was still there waiting for me to trust him. When I did trust him with my problems he showed me just because I hadn't trusted him completely didn't dissolve our trust between us. Thus allowing me to build upon the trust that was previously established in our relationship. I'm learning how to bring that into my friendships with people.

So taking what I learned and applying to relationships today is the challenging part, but it's also the fun part as I get see how the dynamics change in relationships when the trust that I thought was gone really isn't. In the relationships that I've implemented this in there has been a stark difference in how the relationship works; something tells me that this is how God designed relationships and trust to work. Part of the problem goes all the way back to Adam and Eve, yep I went there and it's true because of their choices things are not the way God intended. The other piece is our experiences changes how we trust and it's not something that is easily corrected or healed because we don't like to address things that are uncomfortable. In the world we live in, I have found it incredibly difficult to always willing to walk through the hard times, there are times when it's easier to, but it doesn't mean they get any easier as you grow older. Heed this word as advice and warning, the older you get the harder it is from my experience to let God heal you from old wounds, they longer they fester the harder it is to confront them. It took some very painful experiences for God to show me what trust looked like through his eyes and those of you who were with through the course of this summer know how hard it was for me.

I'm going to leave you with this, "Trust in the Lord with your strength and lean not on your own understanding; in all your way acknowledge him and he will make your path straight." Proverbs 3:5-6
Just because things aren't as we perceived them to be doesn't mean they aren't working as our God intended them to be, sometimes we need don't see what God is doing in our lives or the lives of others around us in the very moment. It's a couple months removed and that's when the revelation comes to us in which God is speaking to us, specifically to our hearts because that is the very core of who we are. As always I hope you enjoyed reading. Take care and God bless!!

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